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Pausing to look for yourself is a most helpful step to prevent carrying what is not yours. The rest is imagined guilt, and that's worth recognizing, releasing and returning to feeling fine about you.
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At such moments you can enjoy boldly pronouncing, "Cancel and erase," several times and immediately rewriting it with a validating statement about you like, "I know I did no harm, I'm a good person and I'm up to making a positive difference. What's to be done if, after checking with reality, you or someone else actually did something wrong and caused harm, and now bear existential guilt? A straightforward approach to make peace with guilt and complete the experience can be enormously valuable both to getting back to being on good terms with yourself as well as clearing the air and returning to being on fine terms in your relationship.
This helps heal injuries to one's integrity and relationships. Here are three essential steps:. Some people that bring a background in religious or moral training may want the person who did harm to say they how badly they felt over what they did, the harmful consequences and the pain inflicted. They may think an apology and asking for forgiveness is necessary as well. In this case, the following two steps are useful:. After all is sincerely said, the person who enacted the harm can ask the person so harmed whether they are satisfied and whether the whole incident is over with.
Usually this is the case. There may be some people who unfortunately are skilled at carrying grudges and will never let the incident go and be done with. This is relatively uncommon in my experience, thank goodness. Whenever this happens, it is fitting to inform the grudge holder that the incident is over and done with for you. If they insist on continuing to carry it, then it is a most unfortunate situation, this painful burden is entirely theirs and you wash your hands of it.
So long as the harmful behavior, including addictive patterns, is not reenacted, it is 'off limits' to bring up, even in the heat of an argument. When the person has been true to their word in action and the other party wants to drag up this specific old issue that has not resurfaced, doing this is can be called playing "low ball" and reflects poorly on the person doing it. In fact, now it is theirs to clean this up! Of course, when the injuring party does go back to acting out the harmful behavior, it is fair now to look at it in the context of a past history of doing this behavior.
Some authorities say that it is better to die with the truth instead of ever admitting guilt to avoid hurting other people.
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T hese sources are cited here as bibliographical references. I enjoy your podcasts very much!! I am 28 months off and these are very helpful and comforting. Thank you!! Can you tell me when they will be released each week? Hi Elizabeth, and thank you for commenting. Yes, this week I am releasing two episodes 6 on Feb. Next week I will start our normal schedule which will release one episode a week on Wednesdays, although due to delays in approval by the providers e.
Hi D, I have not started to taper yet and am already having withdrawl symptoms like mild vertigo, insomnia, anxiety, depression, burning skin, hear palpitations and pain heart if physiologically ok and cognitive impairment. My question is, should all this be gone b4 you start to taper at each level or will some or most of these symptoms follow me through each taper cut?
How do you know when to cut more? I know I will need to listen to my body, I just want to know if symptoms are tolerable or gone before you step down? Also thank you for having such an informative and encouraging site. I am on some forums that have really upset me and scared me into imaging the worse.
I am really enjoying your podcasts as they help to keep me distracted.
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K in Toronto. Hi K, thanks for your question. Unfortunately, if you wait until all symptoms are gone it may be a long time before you can continue your taper. You are correct that you need to listen to your body, but also to know what you can handle in your life psychologically. Some symptoms will fade, others will remain throughout your taper.
Work with your medical professional if you have one who can help you and take it easy. Your body is healing and it takes time. I wish you well and thanks for reaching out. Please, keep in touch and let us know if you have any other questions.
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Hi I bought your book and found it very informative. I am a 23 year prescribed user of benzos, so I have been down the road of many symptoms and withdrawal from running out, etc. I have considered tapering in the past and have suffered interdose and have been experiencing tolerance wd parastehsia for a few years now bc of mg changes. My Dr. I wonder if my Dr. Just wondering you thoughts? I can tell you that this decision is a very difficult one.
When I decided to withdraw, my doc made me wait six months before I could start.
It was the right decision for me, in hindsight. I was not in a strong enough mental state to taper when I first visited him. It sounds like you have done some good work towards finding the right mindset. Learning acceptance will help you out a lot.
If it were me, I might wait until my life settled down a bit. Or, perhaps, I start small and see how it goes. If it becomes too hard, you could stay at that level and wait until later to start again.
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